Love is blind… as long as you’re conventionally attractive.
Vanessa Lachey, who co-hosts the popular Netflix dating reality series “Love is Blind,” gave a terrible response when she was asked about the lack of body diversity on the show.
Some contestants feel “insecure,” which prevents them from forging a stronger connection with potential matches, Lachey told Insider.
“Their whole life they’ve been so insecure about being themselves because of this crazy swipe generation that we are in and this catfishing world that we’re in, that they’re so afraid to be themselves,” Lachey said of contestants who may do not believe they fit into conventional beauty standards.
“Love is Blind” has yet to prominently feature a contestant who is plus-sized, visibly disabled, or over the age of 40 — which seems odd since the concept of the show is to fall in love with someone’s personality rather than their physical appearance .
The popular show is broken into a few phases. The first is a two-week “pod” period in which contestants “meet” one another in “pods” or two separate rooms, and speak to one another through a wall. If the two forge a deep connection, they get engaged and meet face to face for the first time. The show then transitions into focusing on how the engaged couples navigate their way to the altar.
Plus-sized contestants have been selected by casting and are shown in the preliminary phase of the show. During the show’s two-season run, however, none of these plus-sized contestants, who are initially introduced as potential love matches, had their “pod” dates with other contestants featured on the show. They also had very little airtime to speak about themselves during confessionals. So, it’s unclear why these contestants never make it to the engagement stage and become part of the show’s main cast.
But Lachey has a theory for that as well.
“I wonder if they truly don’t have enough time in those two weeks to find themselves, A, and then be themselves to then find that spouse,” Lachey said.
There have been cast members on the show who have shared stories about previously losing a significant amount of weight, although by the time they’re featured on the show they have what most would consider smaller bodies.
Danielle Ruhl of Season 2 was often painted in the series as insecure, and her lack of confidence stemmed from once being plus-sized.
Abhishek “Shake” Chatterjee got engaged to Deepti Vempati in Season 2. During one of their “pod” dates, Vempati shared with Chatterjee that she used to be bigger. After the couple got engaged and met, the show featured Chatterjee routinely speaking about how he wasn’t physically attracted to Vempati.
All the blame can’t be placed on “Love is Blind” for featuring a lack of body diversity — although the very premise of the show is that love shouldn’t be skin deep. Very rarely are people who don’t squarely fit into traditional beauty standards featured on dating shows. Even the popular “The Bachelor” franchise has been called out for its lack of racially diverse contestants. butt Emmy-nominated competition series “Lizzo’s Watch Out for the Big Grrrls,” does feature oodles of talented and multi-dimensional plus-sized contestants. While they’re not necessarily looking for love, Lizzo’s show does a great job of highlighting confident plus-size people.